And trying to squeeze into my pink tights and black leotard.
How the tights made an impression around my belly, that no leotard, skirt, or dance shorts could hide. To my great disappointment.
I remember sucking in my stomach because I believed having any kind of belly made me overweight and therefor “bad.”
I worried that I was the biggest girl in class.
I remember comparing myself to the other girls.
I wished I had slimmer, streamlined bodies like theirs.
I remember looking in the mirror and seeing a flailing mess of a 10 year old girl.
And when I think back to this girl who hated the sight of herself so much, I give her a soft pat on the back and a giant hug. I tell her she is enough, exactly as she is. Smart enough. Strong enough. Beautiful enough.
I tell her it’s ok to have the extra cookie at snack time. She’ll grow into her body and one day look back at photos of herself and be amazed by what a dancing fool she was!
I tell the 10 year old version of me that one day she won’t care about doing sit-ups or eliminating all the fat from her body. And that it’s gonna feel so freeing!
And she’s going to look to other women for support and inspiration, instead of comparing herself.
This is a small part of my story. And I can’t help but think, some of it might resonate with you. Or your children. It’s why I created my Raising Role Models program.
Where we, as adults, provide the best opportunity possible for the children and youth in our lives to grow up with self-esteem and healthy body image.
Please take a look at the mini training I put together. In it I offer 3 shifts you can make TODAY, on your own that will shift not only your own body image, but also your child’s.
And if you’d like to learn a little more, I encourage you to sign up for a free call with me this week by clicking the link below.
With love, always,